About Cecilia

I am a Life & Clutter Coach and IST Practitioner. I LOVE helping writers, creatives and entrepreneurs just like YOU, make their homes and lives into supportive containers for their creative AND personal lives.  

Cecilia's sharp, crystalline insight has kept me on track in my creative life, my business life, and my emotional life for the past six years: she's a triple threat!

 - Sarah Selecky, author of Giller Prize nominated This Cake is for the Party


It's only January 3rd, Relax!

Happy New Year sweet one. 

I had a plan.  It was BIG.  It involved lots of ACTION and DOING and GETTING THINGS DONE and it was going to start...  Yesterday. 

OK, that's not quite true. I didn't have a plan but that date, January 2nd, was breathing down my neck. 

I should have a plan.  I should have a list.  I should be knocking things off that list. 

I've had a break, now it's time to dust off the whip and get to it.  Right?  Wrong...

It's winter.  It's cold (thank the earth mother goddess, the warm weather was freaking me out), it's dark, the moon is waning.  I have a sweater to finish and episodes of Glee to watch.  ;)

I gave up resolutions a long time ago.  Now I choose one thing to work on. 

An intention, a red balloon to let go of, a warm squirmy puppy to cover me with kisses and then run away to nap. 

Last year I chose one word.  Creativity.  I wanted more of it and I got it.  Contact improv dancing in the spring, singing with choir!choir!choir! in the fall and lots of writing throughout the year.

This year?  I'm not sure yet. 

It's not something to force, it's something to allow.  Don't run after the chipmunk, hold out the almond and let it come to you. 

The fact is, I feel a little like the tin man after a rainstorm, a little rusty, moving slowly with my friends helping me out with the oil can.

So for now I'm just holding it up, asking the question, sitting still and listening.  One thing that has become clear already is that is has to be kind, it has to be gentle and it has to be loving. 

Or as my partner Mike said to me when I was getting worked up yesterday, "What if 2013 is the year of no guilt?".  Oh wouldn't that be a treat.  I think I'll start there...

What about you?  Do you already have a theme for the year or will you wait and see?  I'd love to hear about it, you can comment below. 

Big love to you and you'll see a post from me soon, I just wanted to say hi and don't worry if you don't have it all figured out yet, I don't either.   

Take care,


p.s. If you're reading this and you're not on my list, you should really get yourself on it!  I send out a fun and useful email just about every week on clearing clutter and living life.  Just pop on over here to get on!  All the cool kids are doing it!


A is for Clutter Clearing? The Three A's of Change

I'll be honest with you.  I can't wait until the Winter Solstice.  I can't wait for the days to start getting longer, only 18 more to go. 

Yay sun! 

This time of year has me thinking of the new year, the new sun, what I want for my life and how I want things to be different. 

It makes me think of change.

And I was reminded me of a sweet little concept I learned from a participant in a group at Sheena's Place a few years ago (a centre for people with eating disorders where I've been facilitating groups for 8 years).

It's the Three A's of Change, and it's brilliant!

(Or for us Canadians, the three Eh's of Change. Hardy har har! ;)

If change was easy, you wouldn't stress and sweat over it, you'd just do it. 

But it's not.  Change is hard.

What needs to happen in order for you to change?

"I'm sorry, what needs to change?  I'm fine. Thank you."

Ah yes...  Well then, I guess we'll start at the beginning. 

The first A of change is... 



In order to change something, you need to be aware that it exists! 

You can't change something you can't see, just like you can't get that piece of spinach out of your teeth unless you look in a mirror (that is unless you're hanging around a gaggle of Germans, but that's a story for another time). 

Awareness can be a bit of a challenge.  Why?  Blinders. 

We are very good at only seeing what we want to see in ourselves, in our homes, in our lives. 

Why?  Because awareness can be painful and maddening.  There's nothing more frustrating than being aware of something but having no idea what to do about it. 

It totally sucks.

Like the other day I saw a picture of the back of my head and could see very clearly that I was long overdue for a haircut.  The days between seeing the picture and getting my haircut were annoying because I was walking around knowing that the back of my head looked like a discarded pile of Movember moustaches. 

Now imagine if I didn't know I could get my haircut...

Let's apply this to clutter.  You can't clear your clutter if you don't see it as clutter, or if you don't see it at all.

Only when you can SEE your clutter and recognize it as such can you do something about it. 

Your storage locker full of stuff, that closet you never open, the room you pretend isn't there. 

Ignorance is bliss...

Once you know it's there, you can't pretend that you don't.  You can't unsee it.  But it's hard, especially if you have no idea how you're going to deal with it and you're caught up in feeling bad about it.


Which bring us to the second A of change...


This A of change is simple and it's not. 

See that chair over there?  It's a chair.  It is what it is, just a chair.  Accept it.

Acceptance is about being with what is. 

I have clutter. 

It's not a judgement.  It's not a right or a wrong.  It just is.

Again, not always easy. 

I may have told this story before, but it's worth mentioning again. 

It reminds me of the first time I listened to the audio cassette (yes, cassette) Radical Self-Acceptance: A Buddhist Guide to Freeing Yourself from Shame by Tara Brach. 

I listened to it on a bus ride from Toronto to Kingston to visit my friend Kate.

When I picked it up I was hopeful that it contained the secret ingredient, the secret handshake, the secret something that would help me to feel good enough. 

The secret that would allow me to accept myself.

Well...  It didn't. 

The radical notion Tara shares, is that you, me, all of us are worthy of acceptance right now.

I can't tell you how devastated I was to hear that there was no secret.  And I was confused.  If I accept myself, then it must mean that I don't want to change.  Right?

That night, I woke up at 4am crying. 

At the time, I didn't even know why I was crying (poor Kate, she didn't know what to do!), but it's obvious now.  My foundation had been shaken.

This idea that I had to accept myself FIRST, that I had to accept myself before I could change went against everything I believed.  

Acceptance.  It is what it is.

Or as Popeye says, "I yam what i yam and that's all that I yam"


The third A of change is...


Of course, in order for something to truly change, you have to take action. 

Action is the doing, it's the movement. 

It's signing up and going to that dance class.  It's bravely taking the garbage bag and facing your closet. It's making the appointment with your naturopath.

Can you act if you don't know it's there?  No.

Can you act if you don't accept it for what it is?  Well...  You may act, but it probably won't stick. 

When you act from a place of hate or dissatisfaction, it doesn't always work.  You need compassion.  You need acceptance.

One more little story. 

I used to smoke.  *gasp*  I know!  Nobody believes me when I tell them. 

In fact, I didn't really believe that I smoked half of the time.  I didn't like to think of myself as a smoker.

I tried quitting many times, but it never stuck.  I'd throw my cigarettes into the garbage after a night of too many and swear that I would never smoke again. 

But I did.  I always smoked again and then I would feel so guilty.  A cycle of guilt and shame, not a great place to change from. 

One day I came home and my roommate put a book on the kitchen table and told me I could borrow it if I wanted.  It was called The Only Way To Stop Smoking Permanently by Allen Carr. 

I read the book.  I haven't had a cigarette since.  The book is a beautiful combination of awareness and acceptance that leads to action, but you don't stop smoking at the beginning of the book, you stop at the end.

It's only through Awareness and Acceptance that you can take Action.  Action that sticks. 

I have to be aware of the box in my basement.

I have to accept that the box in my basement is what it is.  A box with stuff in it.  It's not a box of shame or of guilt.  I'm not a bad person for having it.  It's just a box.

Then I can take action and sort through the box. 


I totally heart the Three A's of Change. 

I like to remind myself of them when I'm at the beginning, when I'm at awareness.  When I feel frustrated and uncertain.  When I'm annoyed that things aren't moving.  When I have no idea how to change. 

I remind myself that I'm already on my way, I'm on the first A.  I remind myself that from the first A you can't see the third.  And I trust that I'll get there. 

Awareness, Acceptance, Action.

How about you?  Have you noticed the three A's of change at work in your life?  Is there something that you would like to change but you're not sure how?

What area of your life could use a little bit of the three A's of change?

I'd love to hear about it in the comments below and please pass this along to your friend whose always beating herself up for not changing fast enough. 

Take care,



p.s. If you're reading this and you're not on my list, you should really get yourself on it!  I send out a fun and useful email just about every week on clearing clutter and living life.  Just pop on over here to get on!  All the cool kids are doing it!


Take a Me Day!

I'm grateful that I finished knitting up my cozy wristies for these blustery days.  I'll be happier when there's a good amount of the white stuff on the ground.  Brightens up the dark winter days. 

I have a question for you.
Are you good at taking time for yourself? 

Do you ever take time off, but then feel guilty or feel like you should be doing something else?

Well, I have a cure for you, it's called ME TIME!

Sounds selfish, doesn't it?  And it is, in the most delicious way.

I took a “me day” this week and decided I would make a little video about it.

Now it's your turn!  I'd love to hear from you in the comments below

When are you going to take some me time?  Remember it could be just an hour.

What would you like to do (or not do) to enjoy your time off?

If you're a me time expert, tell me how you like to take time for yourself.

FYI, email, telephone and youtube are sandtraps to be avoided during your me time.  More often than not (and I know this from experience) it's just fodder for anxiety and worries, especially if you're trying to take some time off. 

Put your phone on airport mode, close your computer and run a bath. 

I always love hearing from you so drop me a line with any questions you might have and please pass this along to your pal who never takes a day off.

Take care,



p.s. If you're reading this and you're not on my list, you should really get yourself on it!  I send out a fun and useful email just about every week on clearing clutter and living life.  Just pop on over here to get on!  All the cool kids are doing it!


Stop Settling, Be More Like Bella! - A video

Do you ever find yourself settling?

There's that purse you've had your eye on for ages.  You know, the Roots one. 

(If you're not into purses, just substitute backpack, suitcase, wallet, shoes etc... ;)

It's super cute, red, just the right size, a little tassel hanging off the zipper.  It feels so good under your hands. 

But instead of buying that purse, you buy another one.  It's sort of like it... 

It's burgundy, not quite the right size, with a chain hanging off the zipper, you don't love the material. 

It's OK...

Do you feel satisfied?  Are you happy to carry that purse around?  Does it feel right?  Do you love it?

Probably not. 


Because you settled.

And what happens when you settle? 

You usually buy another purse, and another one, hoping to get close to that Roots one.  Spending more money, creating more clutter.

I have another video for you this week where I talk about just this!



Now it's your turn!

When do you find yourself saying "I don't know what I want"? 

Is it possible that you actually do know what you want?

What would happen if you just let yourself want it?

I want to hear about it in the comments below.  It doesn't have to be monumental.  It could be that you buy the regular apples instead of the organic ones. 

Where do you settle?  What would happen if you didn't?

If you like what I have to say, please share it with a friend, especially the one who never orders what she really wants when you go out for dinner.  You know the one... ;)

Take care,


p.s. If you're reading this and you're not on my list, you should really get yourself on it!  I send out a fun and useful email just about every week on clearing clutter and living life.  Just pop on over here to get on!  All the cool kids are doing it!


What's the smallest clutter clearing step? A video!

I have some exciting news to share with you...  After eleven months of doing pilates, I finally felt my core! 

That's a lie, I always feel my core, but last night I engaged it on command.  Huzzah!  I wanted to make sure you heard the news asap.  ;)

OK, you know what's really exciting? 

A video, that's what!

While I was stuck in NYC I got an email from Martha, a lovely gal who wants to take the smallest step toward sorting through her clothes clutter.

Her letter inspired me to make a little video because it's been awhile and I miss chatting with you face to face. 

When it comes to clutter clearing and so many other things, it has to be a big grand event, or it doesn't matter. 

I mean, when was the last time you celebrated cleaning your bathroom or doing the dishes?

There are many small steps standing between you and change. 

Thinking that you have to do it all, right now, perfectly so often stops you from doing anything at all. 

You know what?  Today could be the day you take one tiny step. 

It doesn't have to be perfect or huge and you don't have to paint your toes to take it.

Now it's your turn! 

What's the smallest step you can take today? 

Let me know what it is in the comments below or better yet, TAKE IT and then check in below.  Remember it can be teeny tiny. 

Take care,



p.s. If you're reading this and you're not on my list, you should really get yourself on the list!  I send out a fun and useful email just about every week on clearing clutter and living life.  Just pop on over here to get on!  All the cool kids are doing it!