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About Cecilia

I am a Life & Clutter Coach and IST Practitioner. I LOVE helping writers, creatives and entrepreneurs just like YOU, make their homes and lives into supportive containers for their creative AND personal lives.  

Cecilia's sharp, crystalline insight has kept me on track in my creative life, my business life, and my emotional life for the past six years: she's a triple threat!

 - Sarah Selecky, author of Giller Prize nominated This Cake is for the Party

Thursday
Jul122018

Feel Stuck? Move in!

This is my view this morning. I’m on Manitoulin Island to visit and hear my sister and her partner play a chamber music concert tonight. It’s a full house at my Mom’s place so I’m staying at the neighbours.

 

I used to just live out of my suitcase when I was staying somewhere for a few nights but as I train deeper in space clearing I’ve started letting myself be inspired by my space clearing mentor Tracey Stanton.

Tracey once shared with me that even if she’s only staying somewhere for one night she totally unpacks and moves in. 

So when I arrived on Wednesday evening before going to bed I hung up all my clothes, unpacked my toiletries and lined them up on the vanity and the shower ledge. Once unpacked, and with the permission of my hosts, I did a little space clearing to set the space so I would feel at home for my three night stay.
 
I find this concept of unpacking and moving in to be so important is all areas of my life.
 
In my last relationship I never let myself move in completely.

I did on the outside, we lived together and all of our physical boxes where unpacked and moved in but our emotional ones weren’t. Although we were together for almost 10 years there was always a feeling for both of us of having one foot in and one foot out.

We didn’t allow ourselves to be ALL IN.
 
It’s a funny thing because sometimes we don’t let ourselves be ALL IN because we’re afraid that we’re going to get stuck, when in fact the opposite happens.

We get stuck because we don’t let ourselves be ALL IN.
 
I’ve seen this so many times with clients. The client moves into an apartment they think is temporary so they don’t totally unpack, they don’t totally move in.

Five years later they’re surrounded by unpacked boxes, still in the basement apartment or living with their parents, because it’s only temporary.
 
This happens with jobs too. You get into a job you see as a stepping stone or temporary so you don’t really give it your all. It’s not forever. But then 10 years later the temporary job is your career and you’ve spent the last 8 years wondering when you might leave.
 
If you recognize yourself in these stories in your home, your job or your relationship, I invite you to unpack and move in completely. 

ESPECIALLY if you really want to move on but feel stuck.
 
My ex and I finally totally committed and “moved in” during the last three months of our relationship. It may seem backwards but after we decided to break up we stayed living together for another 2.5 months and during that time we put all of our vulnerabilities on the table and healed so many of the pains that had been unspoken in our relationship.

The last three months of our relationship were the best, most honest three months that we spent together and I feel so grateful that we gave ourselves the gift of moving in together completely before moving apart.
 
Where do you have unpacked boxes in your life? Where do you have one foot in and one foot out? How can you move into this moment of your life even more?

Because it’s not about how long your stay, it’s about how much you let yourself be there. 100%
 
If you’re not where you want to be, move in, not because you’re settling but because you deserve to feel at home exactly where you are right now even if it’s not perfect.

Lots of Love,
Cecilia
ox
 
p.s. Need some help unpacking? I’m looking for 2 seriously motivated awesome people to join my one on one online Clutter Coaching program. If you’re curious send me an email and we’ll set up a time to chat. 
 
p.p.s. It’s a new moon today so it’s a great day to clean your space, unpack some boxes and set some intentions!
 

Thursday
Jun282018

Cold Water and how you can work with me

Today I was on a deck looking over Georgian Bay at a rented cottage where my partner Mark and I are staying with friends for a few days. 

This was the view today, clear, bright and sharp.
  

Yesterday was another story. I made my way down the wet stone stairs walking carefully around slow moving snails with my towel wrapped around my shoulders. I felt compelled to go in the water, it was a need not a choice. A need to be baptized in the awkward, cold, slippery bay with nothing but fog in front of me, a need to slide shivering into the cold unknown.

It felt vulnerable to wade, I would have much rather run and jump triumphantly off of a dock the water hitting me all at once. That's my style but this option wasn't available to me yesterday and I'm grateful for that. I'm used to jumping into cold water and jumping out again but I'm trying to face the discomfort of life in a more consistent measured way. To face my fears not by rushing through but by slowing down to see what's there so I can navigate more effectively in the future. 

I realized that you might not know how I'm working with people these days so I wanted to slow down and tell you. That's the cold water that I'm wadding into today. You'll find my offerings below and if you're curious to work with me I'd love to connect. The first step is to set up a no pressure clarity call to explore what you deeply desire in your life right now and how I can help. If you're curious send me a quick email with your phone number and I'll contact with you to book our call. 

What are you wading into today even if it's uncomfortable? Or maybe for you today is a day to dive. I'd love to hear, just comment below to let me know. 

Lots of Love, 
Cecilia
ox




One on One transformational coaching program - Minimum 3 months :
This is the core of my practice these days and it's a place where we don't rush through but create deep lasting change over time. In this process I help you connect with your desires, your authentic self and your authentic expression in the world.

We meet on the phone or online and you'll have email and text support between sessions. I've worked with clients all over the world in Vietnam, Singapore and Germany. During our time together I stand fiercely for your desires and you will feel me as a strong force on your team towards a life of connection. My coaching style is intuitive and creative and you'll leave each session with homework that will bring you more into your body, your soul and your life. Packages start at $450/month plus tax. If you're curious take a moment to email me with your telephone number and I'll contact you to book a no pressure clarity call. 

One on One Online Clutter Coaching Program:
I have a new 3 month private online clutter coaching program and I'm really excited about it. It's super effective and each session is 2 hours of pure love conducted over Zoom. Half & half, life coaching and clutter coaching, it is truly awesome… and those who have been in the program thus far have had some pretty incredible breakthroughs.

Here's what my client Julie Ann wrote to me after just our first session together:

 "Huge appreciation for you Goddess Cecilia!!! Loved loved loved our session!! Feeling like I let go of a lot physically and emotionally and spiritually!!"
- Julie Ann, Vancouver
 
I currently have a couple of slots open for clients interested in doing a 3 month private program with me ($450/month plus tax) if you're interested take a moment to email me with your phone number and I'll contact you to book a no pressure clarity call. 

Energetic Space Clearing in your Home:
This is where the magical part of my work really comes in. Having a space clearing in your home or office is an incredible ritual to clear and claim your space so that it works for you in helping you achieve your desires. It serves to clear the layers of energetic imprints in your home and make it a space where your dreams and desires can take root and blossom.

Space Clearing is a half day VIP service that takes place in person in your home. I create a personalized altar and ceremony just for you. It includes a phone consultation a week before to get you crystal clear on your desires and what you're making space for as well as a follow up coaching call 2 weeks after your space clearing so you can action next steps in your life.

One client recently said that her space clearing was one of the top five days in her LIFE and boy has her life changed in the months since we did the clearing. A lot of long held dreams are coming true.  

It's my favourite. It's perfect if you're going through a transition, you've just gotten divorced, you're finally ready for relationship, you're trying to have a baby, you've just moved into a new home, you're starting a new business or you've felt stuck for a long time and you're ready for things to MOVE!

The photo below is from the space clearing my partner Mark and I just did to kick start his business now that he finally has his Canadian work permit and to bring a beautiful flow and ease around money and lots of support for our relationship moving forward. 

Because of the commitment and preparation required I only offer two Space Clearings every month and rates start at $700 plus tax (includes supplies and travel costs in the GTA). If this piques your interest I please connect by sending me an email with your telephone number and I'll connect with you to book your no pressure clarity call. Space Clearing is magical and transformative and I'd love to share this experience with you.

 

Wednesday
Jun132018

Too Much...

Recently a new friend made a comment about me after a dance class where I was particularly “expressive”. She said:

“Don’t get me started on Miss Cecilia. She’s too much, all the time in all the right ways.”

It was incredibly touching for me to hear because I've always judged the “too much” part of myself and at the same time I often feel like I'm not enough. I'm giggling as I write that it reminds me of something that my astrologer said about me. 

She said that I talk like a bad girl but I’m a good girl inside. 

The bad girl is compelled to shock. She lives to talk about things like death and sex. She loves the F word and destroying colouring books and posting them on facebook. She likes to be daring and risky and outrageous.  

When I express my bad girl I’m visible, I’m loud, I’m seen. 

I feel like I'm “too much”. 

My good girl is so sensitive. She's shy, she's good, she worries a lot about what other people think about her. She wants to be liked. She's a good friend and a good helper. 

When I express my good girl I’m quiet, I’m hidden, I’m safe. 

I’m feel like I'm “not enough”. 

And the shame! The shame that comes with feeling too much and not enough. No more. 

I've decided that I'm going to embrace all the parts of me, including my good girl and my bad girl, the outrageous, the quiet and all the places in between. I especially want to embrace my “too much”. 

I can be all of me just as you can be all of you and you know what? We're both perfect just the way we are. 

My new moon wish for both of us is BIG love for ALL of our parts. 

Which of your parts are you going to say YES to today?

Love, 
Cecilia

p.s. It's a new moon today at 3:43pm ET and I'm starting a new newsletter and it would be super fun if you joined me. 

Every New Moon

Every Full Moon

A sentence, a drawing, an essay, a video, an interview. All me, all authentic, all related to growth as I see it. Creativity, Clutter, Space, Magic, Sex, Death, Transformation, Meditation, Light and Dark. 

What do you say? Are you in? If yes, click HERE to join my email list. Thank You!

p.p.s. You know what? I would LOVE to work with you. I've been loving my one on one coaching practice and I have a new program that's perfect if you're ready to dive deep and love all of your parts too. I have 3 spots open this month and one has your name on it. Curious? Just drop me a line and we'll set up a time to talk. 

p.p.p.s. Yay!

Wednesday
Jan172018

Just one step..

 

I have avoided making a post here for over 3 years, so today in honour of the new moon I'm taking one step. 

I had grand plans of a brand new website, a brand new look, a brand new life before I took this step but I'm not going to wait any longer. 

The fact is my life IS brand new and completely different from when I made that last post January 8, 2015 less than a week before my dad died. 

I have come undone and been put back together literally (two broken fingers) and figuratively (ended a 10 years relationship moved to California, found love and moved back to Toronto again). 

I've raged and grieved (hello fuck colouring). I've raged and loved (hello fuck clutter). I made myself visible and then went back into hiding. 

I don't want to hide anymore. I want to be visible.

I can feel something lift as I type, I can feel something change. 

I invite you to join me.

What's one step you can take? Maybe it's one you've been waiting to take for years (like me) or one that you've only been waiting on for minutes (like putting those dishes beside you in the sink or that empty ripped envelope in the recycling). 

3...2...1... STEP! 

And because it's the new moon make a new moon wish when you do. Heck, just for old times sake when you're done leave a comment below. 

I believe in you and I believe in myself! <3

ALL THE LOVE!!!!!

Cecilia

ox

 

Thursday
Jan082015

The Power of Opening - My impulse for 2015

 “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

Anais Nin

Every year I choose a theme or a word.

A few years ago it was CREATIVITY.  That’s the year choir!choir!choir! came into my life.

2014 was SUPPORT and the year saw me shift from someone who found it almost impossible to ask for and receive help to someone who asks for support almost daily.

2014 was a challenging year in many ways, beautiful too.  The biggest challenge has been my father entering into his 2nd year of palliative care.  He's recently moved from creating and doing to a state of just being. 

SUPPORT has enabled me to grow my business during a time of grief and challenge.

Because of course I can’t do it alone.  I wouldn’t be able to do it alone even if my father wasn’t dying, but my current reality has made it impossible to move forward without SUPPORT. I’ve had to ditch my loner ways and reach out even when all I want to do is hide under my purple faux fur blanket and watch Gilmore Girls.

Something beautiful is coming out of this time and something that is bringing love and connection into so many lives including my own.

Which brings me to my impulse for 2015.

My word for 2015 is OPENING.

What else is there to do but open?

Open to Love.

Open to Grief.

Open to Spirit.

Open to Connection.

Open to Self.

Open to LIFE.

I’m curious what I will discover during this year of OPENING.  What gifts and challenges await me?

What’s possible when you decide to open instead of hide?
What’s possible when you decide to open instead of fight?
What’s possible when you decide to open in the face of death?
What’s possible when you decide to say YES instead of no?

I guess I’ll find out and maybe some of you will join me for the ride.  

I’d love to hear from you.  Do you have a word for the year?  What did you learn last year?

Please let me know in the comments below.

Sending so much love and OPENING,
Cecilia
oxo

p.s. I'm organizing an incredible 7 Day Residential Meditation Retreat where you can learn the technique that has brought me the most experiences of opening and has been a tremendous support during this challenging time.  Inner Space Interactive Sourcing is deep, profound and powerful.  My dear friend Samantha Keen will be leading this workshop and I'll be assisting along with Marcela Crowe and Sue Lewis.  There is so much warmth and heart waiting for all of us at this workshop.  Support and opening.  It's coming up February 27th to March 6th at the beautiful Ecology Retreat Centre near Orangeville near Toronto and we have room for 20 sincere seekers who are looking for MORE.  Check out the event website it you're curious http://www.clairvisiontoronto.com/

p.p.s. I'm giving a talk on the Power of Opening coming up next Wednesday, January 14th at 7pm at the Centre for Social Innovation.  It's free and you can sign up HERE.