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About Cecilia

I am a Life & Clutter Coach and IST Practitioner. I LOVE helping writers, creatives and entrepreneurs just like YOU, make their homes and lives into supportive containers for their creative AND personal lives.  

Cecilia's sharp, crystalline insight has kept me on track in my creative life, my business life, and my emotional life for the past six years: she's a triple threat!

 - Sarah Selecky, author of Giller Prize nominated This Cake is for the Party

Tuesday
May262009

Live Life - Play or Pause

My life on pause...


Recently, some unfortunate events caused my life to screech to a grinding halt. Plans were thrown out the window, appointments rescheduled and emotions were set loose to mess up all the neat corners of my mind and my home.

Emails went unanswered, ringing phones stayed cradled and the stairs and hallways were fighting to claim bragging rights to the biggest ball of dog hair. For a week or two, my regularly scheduled programming was put on pause and the scripts needed to be re-written.

The questions is, how to press play again? Life can't stop for ever. When I stop, I get stuck and the longer I'm stuck the harder it feels to get going again. I had started to procrastinate life.

I had to laugh, because I've been facilitating a group at Sheena's Place on Clutter and Perfectionism and one of the trademarks of perfectionism, that leads to procrastination, is "All or Nothing Thinking". You know that saying, you teach what you need to learn? This has always been very true for me.

All or nothing thinking can easily get us into big trouble. This is the line of thinking that says "If I could only take 3 weeks off work, no make that a month, I could clear all my clutter." All or nothing thinking says that we have to do it all, right now, perfectly OR not at all.

Relating this to life, I guess I felt like I had to figure it all out, write the perfect new script and jump into life all the way. Pretend like nothing had happened. But I couldn't do it. I couldn't find a pen, let alone write a new script, so I stayed stuck.

I realized that the only way I was going to get unstuck was by pressing play, but I would do it slowly, by doing little things, one at a time. Get out of bed. Take the dog for a walk, even if you don't want to. Wash one sink full of dishes. Dust one shelf. Make one phone call. Cook one meal.

I remembered the things that were familiar and healing. I went to one yoga class and one night of dancing. I also decided that I needed to introduce things that were new so my partner and I explored a new conservation area and walked on new paths.

This past week, I've been alternating between play and pause, but the more I press play, the easier it is and the shorter the pause. What's been important for me to remember is that something is everything. Taking one step, making one gesture, moving one inch is enough to get life moving again. It doesn't have to be the best step and I don't need to know what my ultimate destination is, but as long as I'm moving, it's perfect.

Friday
Apr032009

Video Blog #6 - Intention vs. Expectation

Video Blog filmed and edited by James Scobbie at Raintree Photography. www.raintreephotography.com
Monday
Mar162009

Spring's Reveal

I love this time of year! I love that the sun starts to feel like sun again, that it comes to visit earlier every morning and sticks around later every evening. There is a feeling of hopefulness and change in the air. Spring is still a ways off in Toronto, but I can hear the birds outside my window gossiping about their plans for Spring break.

As much as I look forward to Spring itself, there is something sweet and tantalizing about anticipating it's arrival. Like a trip you've been planning for awhile, part of the fun is the departure date moving closer and closer. I love the slow process of revelation that comes with Spring. A puddle of water here, a hint of grass there, the first snow drops, the smells, the animals coming out to play.

Spring's reveal reminds me of the process of clearing clutter. Just as we don't wake up one morning and find all our clutter magically gone, we work through it bit by bit. A section of floor revealed here, a table uncovered there. As we work through our space it's not just bookshelves and counters that come to light, it's also those parts of ourselves that have remained hidden. Our hopes, our dreams, our hearts, our desires. Slowly there is a chance for them to come out and stretch and play in the light and manifest themselves in surprising and beautiful ways.

If you are looking for inspiration to let go of clutter and embrace your space, Tracey Stanton, Professional Space Clearer and Clutter Clearer extraordinaire will be in Toronto to offer Karen Kingston's famous "Feng Shui and the Art of Space Clearing" workshop trilogy in April, for the very first time in Canada.

Monday
Mar162009

Dying to Live

I'm getting ready to die, so I'm going to keep this short. This afternoon I started an intensive course on dying, but not just any old dying. I'm learning to die so I can learn how to live.

What it comes down to is this. Letting go. What's possible when we truly learn how to let go? Whether it's our clutter, our negative patterns, the stress in our bodies or our well worn emotional reactions, just imagine what could happen if we could just let go.

Let go. Five little letters spelling two little words, should be easy. Right?

Let go, let go, let go, let go, let go. How many times have I written those words furiously in my journal. Let go of the anger, let go of the blame, let go of the uncertainty, let go of the second guessing, let go of the obsession, let go of the clutter, let go of the negative beliefs. Just, let go.

When I see it written here, it sounds simple. I see a hand grasping something, and all it has to do to let go is open.

Ah... Open. Maybe it is just that simple. Open. When we let go, we open. When we open, we let go. In the opening there is space. Space for what? Well, that's up to you, what do you want to make space for?

I for one, want to make space for ME. The me that believes in myself. The me that dares to be big. The me that loves deeply. The me that wants to hug the whole world. The me that knows how to let go and receive.

So, this week, I die. I die to be me. I die to love. I die to open and in dying I say yes.

See you on the other side!

Tuesday
Jan062009

Video Blog #5 - Tips to Help you Clear Clutter

Video Blog filmed and edited by James Scobbie at Raintree Photography. www.raintreephotography.com